http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f?format=rss Tribe.net. Local Connections http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#028e885a-c1f7-4cd3-8378-6a818af644d5 excellent point, Chrissy. I like how you phrased it. Thu, 25 Jun 2009 18:46:43 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#028e885a-c1f7-4cd3-8378-6a818af644d5 $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-25T18:46:43Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#cba2a7e4-b332-4e27-8dac-8330ebd54f72 I didn't know what this was when Daddy and I got serious. I was discovering the meaning of submissive and thinking I kinda identified with that, but really wasn't into the rest of the BDSM. I discovered D/lg well into the relationship and kept him up to date as I learned about it. One day I told him I wanted our relationship to be a custom version of D/lg that works for us and that we both feel comfortable with. It evolved from there and is still evolving. I was thinking about this convo you girls are having though and it seems like, even if he wasn't comfortable with me calling him Daddy or being so obvious about things, essentially our relationship would have to be much the same or it wouldn't work. If he was closed-minded to anything other than a Vanilla relationship we would either have broken up by now, or he would have to adopt a Daddy role and call it whatever he was comfortable identifying it with. As long as you love and accept me, you can label it immature, playful, ADD, or lil girl. Doesn't really matter. But I am so glad that he IS open to it because you guys are such good friends and the validation that I am not alone and have a place to go to be myself is just a big present in silver foil wrapping paper with a tiffany blue bow (the best). Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:01:51 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#cba2a7e4-b332-4e27-8dac-8330ebd54f72 Chrissy 2009-06-25T16:01:51Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#560955c4-1322-4eae-9553-50554cfa5d00 If I am the way I am because I have unfulfilled needs, and Daddy can "meet my little girl needs" then more power to him. It would be time for a different phase in our lives I guess. I am not sure what makes me crave to let him have the ultimate say, or why I feel sexier in pink lacy ruffles than in red silk, or if those things are even related but I don't see all of my little girl characteristics dissappearing after a breakthrough spanking one day. It's a part of me, and by that I mean it is intermingled in every chapter, part of my tastes, part of how I socialize, even how I function at work, how I cope with stress etc. It would take a lot of unraveling to make me very different. Thu, 25 Jun 2009 15:49:20 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#560955c4-1322-4eae-9553-50554cfa5d00 Chrissy 2009-06-25T15:49:20Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#63df0d68-0fdd-4ba5-a1f0-f0802110672b I tend to do everything the same way you rip off a band aid. I always figure it'll hurt less in the end if it's something scary. I've always jumped into everything. For some reason, I'm just not too concerned if someone thinks I'm weird or anything like that. I'm sad for them if they react poorly, but otherwise, I'm usually pretty okay with me. Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:31:38 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#63df0d68-0fdd-4ba5-a1f0-f0802110672b $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-25T08:31:38Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#60b4fb04-478e-4f02-88ba-63bfd205c2f2 thats really good that your daddy likes your little side. I think mine does, but he's told me before he thinks this might be a phase I'll grow out of when I'm a lot older and my little girl needs have been met by him. Its hard to say though...sometimes I feel like I'll still be a little girl til the day I die, and sometimes I think it might naturally phase itself out. I kinda hope not though. Thu, 25 Jun 2009 03:00:14 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#60b4fb04-478e-4f02-88ba-63bfd205c2f2 Kailee 2009-06-25T03:00:14Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#301c85da-2256-4047-a342-e99d1260e5f6 I was with my Daddy for 6 months before I started hinting I wanted him to be my Daddy. I was scared he'd think I was a freak and not want me any more. One day he just came out with it and said he wanted to be my Daddy! I never had a Daddy before and he only role played being a Daddy a little bit with an ex girlfriend, but I didn't know that till after he asked me. Now he says he'd be very sad if the little me went away, but he loves all of me Big and little no matter what! Finding the right Daddy is nerve wreaking! Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:42:43 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#301c85da-2256-4047-a342-e99d1260e5f6 Lisa 2009-06-25T01:42:43Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#f1f9e35a-fc2d-4286-b843-c40522a0741c This is an excellent thread. I really hope that those of you that rarely post will think hard about these postings and put in your two cents. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 23:23:04 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#f1f9e35a-fc2d-4286-b843-c40522a0741c mary 2009-06-24T23:23:04Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#11b0af89-9d5d-4cd3-84cf-12b18e52cf82 thanks! At first it was really hard and I tried to squash my little side away for a couple years, cause I just felt like there was something wrong with me. It kind of worked, but I felt like I was missing a part of myself. Thank god I finally found the right person. ps normal IS boring. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:43:55 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#11b0af89-9d5d-4cd3-84cf-12b18e52cf82 Kailee 2009-06-24T21:43:55Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#c12a8a11-c1a7-48d7-982b-52a6f44b77c0 I have trouble talking about d/lg right from the beginning with a guy, but I tend to only really fall for guys with a kind of daddy-ish vibe. It usually takes a few months of vanilla dating with a little kinky stuff in the bedroom, and then I'll start dropping a hint or mentioning stuff about it. Parts of my little girl side do come through right from the beginning, like being a little cute and playful, but I definitely don't come right out with everything on the first date. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:42:26 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#c12a8a11-c1a7-48d7-982b-52a6f44b77c0 Kailee 2009-06-24T21:42:26Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#9278bd42-a3c4-4d2e-aa39-ab3eceffa43a I haven't heard of the don't tell mommy thing, but there are a lot of cheaters out there. It's wrong to the vanilla person and wrong to the little. Everytime I've ever started dating anyone, including my Daddy, I tell them everything up front. That weeds them out right away if they aren't prepared for what I am looking for. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:35:29 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#9278bd42-a3c4-4d2e-aa39-ab3eceffa43a $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-24T21:35:29Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#56f23678-cd47-4fee-a860-58eb532fc556 Ew. So. About this. I just got a mail from "master thor" saying that he's looking for a new sub or slave and that I caught his eye. Not only is it super creepy, but my profile states that I'm OBVIOUSLY taken. Oh another thing that reeeeeally bothers me if people who do this kind of stuff, but they're already with a vanilla partner who 'doesn't understand'. This seems to especially attract a lot of married men who try to pull this whole "daddy loves you but we can't tell 'mommy' about it" How gross is that, to not only be cheating, but to try and use your non-consenting vanilla partner in your games like that? Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:04:48 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#56f23678-cd47-4fee-a860-58eb532fc556 Kailee 2009-06-24T21:04:48Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#5adc1530-521f-4969-923a-58fbbd34a721 what is "normal"? Everyone has a different idea of what it is. Here is mine: normal = boring I am glad you are staying true to you Kailee! Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:29:01 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#5adc1530-521f-4969-923a-58fbbd34a721 Chrissy 2009-06-24T19:29:01Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#d33c172d-7d3d-46c5-852f-89d6a0887f5e ouch indeed. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 18:58:15 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#d33c172d-7d3d-46c5-852f-89d6a0887f5e $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-24T18:58:15Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#acf3059f-e051-4661-8016-f86ed8767a68 I used to date a guy who thought like that. He let me call him daddy and stuff, but to him it was totally just about secks and spanking me when I was bad. He didn't get any of the other stuff and he eventually left me because he said he just wanted to be normal. Ouch. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 18:23:00 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#acf3059f-e051-4661-8016-f86ed8767a68 Kailee 2009-06-24T18:23:00Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#56d2cde2-69d8-47ee-a9a6-192fe70ab0e1 well said, Lisa. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 17:53:55 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#56d2cde2-69d8-47ee-a9a6-192fe70ab0e1 $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-24T17:53:55Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#3350833a-9d0f-496e-8f5e-64e2453d44de I noticed that too. That makes me sad. A thing that bothers me lots is that a bunch of the "Daddies" that send private messages are the ones who think it's just a S * X thing and has no grasp that it's so much more than that. Little girls/boys need love and attention and the chance to be themselves with an affectionate guardian not just punishments for being a "brat" with adult ..play. Some girls may only want that, but it seems like most of us are more. I'd be so unhappy if my Daddy only wanted me for that and I feel sad inside to think some poor little girl or boy will take that because it's better than no daddy. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:15:13 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#3350833a-9d0f-496e-8f5e-64e2453d44de Lisa 2009-06-24T14:15:13Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#0830ce2b-2ca5-45e4-b2a9-97a3a80472f0 I'm glad you posted it. It's a good thing. There is a LOT of desperation out there. I'm not saying desperate like you'd say desperate in normal dating circumstances. Well, maybe I am, but desperate in normal dating circumstances has a connotation that something is wrong with the person themselves as opposed to indicating that they will do anything to fulfill that need. Desperation runs deep within this world. I would guess that most of us has experienced it at some point. The main problem is that you either become overly pushy or you accept something that is not right for you. Many littles get with bigs who push them too much or not enough b/c they are so desperate for it that they will take anything they can get. Same with the bigs. This is an idea that is reinforced time and again within the community. There is so much emphasis on Daddy this, Mommy that, that littles feel like it's a real necessity. Like better to have a bad Daddy than no Daddy at all, or better to have a little than no little at all. If I had a dime for every time I've heard a little say that they are upset with their current Daddy situation and someone reply with, "At least you have a Daddy." I'd be rich. We are encouraged to set our standards low. Sometimes too, Bigs notice that littles will date just any mommy or daddy that comes around and take advantage of that. The whole dating dynamic within our community is corrupt. A lot of us who are doing well in our own relationships don't realize it, but there's a lot going on out there that is horribly wrong. : \ Wed, 24 Jun 2009 06:37:57 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#0830ce2b-2ca5-45e4-b2a9-97a3a80472f0 $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-24T06:37:57Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#cf7d1182-4281-45ea-b581-eb74021ca41e I figured they just didn't know better and they won't know if someone doesn't tell them. If we tell them the best way to find a little they might stop frightening littles on accident. I didn't post to be mean and I don't think they're all desperate. (though some may be) They just don't know how to approach and thought I'd save some other littles some grief and post some advice. Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:13:48 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#cf7d1182-4281-45ea-b581-eb74021ca41e Lisa 2009-06-24T00:13:48Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#af52da0e-4e72-418b-80da-2eadeb0e34a7 agreed, I try to be gentle and sensitive about it. I can't blame the big (or little) for looking and saying hello. Another lonely person is out there somewhere waiting for them! Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:16:56 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#af52da0e-4e72-418b-80da-2eadeb0e34a7 Chrissy 2009-06-23T20:16:56Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#ec03b178-ef82-499c-b69c-303b8db065ae Very interesting insight apple! i agree, i think that's why its sometimes okay for those daddies to be pushy. (not private msging)..but searching hard is okay. they look for something specific too, and if a little girl is shy, he might never get to meet her if he doesn't try to say hello. Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:52:14 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#ec03b178-ef82-499c-b69c-303b8db065ae littleb 2009-06-23T18:52:14Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#f955e809-3fc1-4c56-b8bd-c901832fc250 I find that the problem with Mommies, Daddies, Little boys, and Little girls is that it's such a specific thing that we're into that it is hard to find others who are likeminded. Also, we have emotional needs we feel must be met by either having a little or having a big in our life. Unfortunately, this causes desperation in a lot of people and they force themselves onto people they shouldn't. They also don't realize that this is why they are probably not getting the little girl/boy or Daddy/Mommy they want. I am an AB. I always try to make AB friends, especially in my area. I have found that it is a major problem, though, b/c usually when I talk to another AB, they try to get me to Mommy them. I'm not even a mommy type person- nowhere near it. It's just that they are so desperate to have the Mommy they will force the issue on someone who is just plain ol' into ageplay, in hopes it might work. I gotta be honest, though. While this is a pretty sad thing, all this desperation, people who get that way generally will not listen to anything you say. I've tried politely correcting them. It just doesn't work. :( Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:18:39 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#f955e809-3fc1-4c56-b8bd-c901832fc250 $item.owner.firstName 2009-06-23T17:18:39Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#c404e5bd-e4ce-4b66-8551-339a3fe02cfa Here it is for potential Daddies out there! Not that we don't want you around, this is just a better place to find others who are looking for love than our playground. :) Thanks! http://tribes.tribe.net/ageplaypersonals Tue, 23 Jun 2009 15:38:02 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#c404e5bd-e4ce-4b66-8551-339a3fe02cfa Chrissy 2009-06-23T15:38:02Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#f8229a38-fb05-47f5-b858-38fc0e28814d i had something way more constructive to say, but then i forgot it. Tue, 23 Jun 2009 04:52:33 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#f8229a38-fb05-47f5-b858-38fc0e28814d Kailee 2009-06-23T04:52:33Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#d6492015-8072-4aa9-a4e0-68cf359295e3 yeah...I don't like getting messages from daddys. It creeps me out. Mon, 22 Jun 2009 22:53:00 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#d6492015-8072-4aa9-a4e0-68cf359295e3 Kailee 2009-06-22T22:53:00Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#5d04effa-ceff-4535-9c38-de141a627363 It makes me very uncomfortable and really don't like it when Daddies send me messages. Makes me want to run to Daddy to protect me and makes me feel the intruding "Daddy" is a bad man. I hope they start using that personals board, it'd be very nice. Mon, 22 Jun 2009 21:31:51 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#5d04effa-ceff-4535-9c38-de141a627363 Lisa 2009-06-22T21:31:51Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#859e9ad9-a26e-49d1-86c7-2fce23e81c8a I am not allowed to talk to you strangers who call yourself "Daddy". There is an ageplay personals group that is intended for Daddies and Littles to let it be known that they are available and accepting applications... Mon, 22 Jun 2009 20:31:13 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#859e9ad9-a26e-49d1-86c7-2fce23e81c8a Chrissy 2009-06-22T20:31:13Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#e323bc45-41c5-407f-95ce-e0c974f81248 That is great advice lisa! I know that I feel the same when It comes to My lil girl jennifer and I must say that all except for one time the Daddys have been good about it. Sad to say though some lil girls dont have that respect they say theyve read your profile but how could that be when you have posted that you have a lil girl and they still contact you for the purpose of trying to get you as their Daddy? ~smiles~ but again that is great advice and Im sure your Daddy will be very proud of you for starting this post!! I do feel bad because not all Daddies have lil girls and not all lil girls have Daddies but they should still be respectful to thoes of Uus who do have lil girls and who have Daddies. Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:25:49 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#e323bc45-41c5-407f-95ce-e0c974f81248 Chuc 2009-06-22T19:25:49Z http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#43f8ed94-5e0d-4d58-ab9d-7c5caea8bba7 If you're looking for a little girl here, it's better to post here and get to know the littles here. If you don't bother to do a little research before sending a message to a little girl and she already has a Daddy it might really upset them. Some of us aren't allowed to talk to other Daddies or are only allowed to talk to them in public. Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:34:45 GMT http://daddylittlegirl.tribe.net/thread/99bbab21-1caa-4f0f-a798-6becb78a061f#43f8ed94-5e0d-4d58-ab9d-7c5caea8bba7 Lisa 2009-06-22T18:34:45Z